Let's talk about Consequences and Accountability.
Our words and actions have an impact on other people and the world around us.
Positive choices can allow for great things to happen.
There are negative things that can happen when we make choices that are hurtful, disrespectful or inappropriate.
What happens because of our choices is called a consequence.
Making negative choices can cause you to miss out on doing things you want to do if you have shown you can’t join in or use things respectfully and safely.
Our own feelings are not an excuse to hurt or disrespect others. We are still responsible for how we respond and react to others.
Have a look at how
Kindness Koala set a boundary to protect their peace.
When we take accountability for our actions,
we understand that our choices lead to consequences,
and that we need to work towards making the right choices.
I made a hurtful choice and I want to make things right.
How can I take accountability for my actions?
If someone tells me my words or actions are hurtful, this is what I do:
If I'm not sure what I've done wrong, I ask and find out what I can do to make things better.
I listen to their feelings and take their concerns seriously
I reflect on the situation and apologise for what I had said or done that was hurtful
I respect their boundaries (which might mean time apart)
I make sure I don't repeat the behaviour
When I had to face the consequences of my
words and actions, I took accountability so that I could make things right.
I hurt my loved one's feelings with unkind words and behaviour, and they needed some time apart. I reflected on and admitted my actions, and I prove that I am sorry by making better choices.
I played unfairly and only by my rules. That made it tricky for others to play with me. I compromised so now we can play games that suit all of us.
I wonder if you have experiences like this,
and how you could learn and grow from it?
Good on you for taking accountability, Brave 'Burra.
It sometimes takes courage to admit we are wrong and to make positive choices.
I agree. We might feel like a bad person or that we can't do any better, but that isn't true.
In life we get chances to learn from our mistakes so we can make better choices in the future.
We always have the power to learn and grow,
and continue to make good choices that have a positive impact in the world.